People say that you first love is your only love.That love can be found at the age I am now.If you look at the way I see it love can't be real nor can it take your breath away .Love can come easy or it a life time to find.What ever way you find love it or think you have got it it's not the real deal.Love can't be found by just looking at someone ,and not knowing anything about them.
Have you ever seen someone and instantly felt attracted to every part of them, including their personality (even though you haven't even talked to them yet)? You might be quick to call it love at first sight, but it's probably what psychologists call the attractiveness halo effect. When you see someone who looks great, your brain sometimes jumps to the conclusion that their personality must be great, too.Romeo and Juliet fell in love at first sight. But then again, should you be getting your love advice from a 450-year old dead guy?We all know that not everyone's looks and personalities match up. Some attractive people are total jerks, and some of the best people in the world aren't what you'd necessarily think of as hot. So the halo effect is really just an illusion. Your sudden feelings of love might go away as soon as you get to know the person better.
Love More than Just Looks Everyone's got a different take on what love is, but few people believe that's made out of stuff you can find just by looking at someone. Love (at least if you ask me) is made up of compromise, empathy and patience. You can't give or get those sorts of things at first sight. That doesn't mean that your initial feelings can't turn into love. When you first see someone, you might instantly know that you want to get close to them and learn about them. As your relationship progresses, those feelings might eventually grow into love. But is "love" really the word for your gut reaction? Not unless your definition of love is kinda superficial.
Think about it do your heart just know that you love that person.Your brain might know that they look good ,and that you want to be with them but is it love at first sight.
You might meet couples who say that when they saw each other for the first time, they "just knew." What did they really know? Probably that they liked how the other person looked and acted, and that they wanted to take things to the next step and get to know each other better. Than like two months later they hate eachother.it's wrong to think that if you don't have intense feelings right away, it could never be love. Some of the best and strongest relationships started out in totally unromantic ways.
More importantly, though, the halo effect can be dangerous. If you see someone hot and assume that what you feel is love, you'll overlook qualities in them that could end up hurting you. You might let them get away with abusive behavior because your heart has taken over your better judgment.It's not the first glance that makes it love. It's the stuff that comes later - the commitment and caring that makes a relationship last.
